You and I have been designed to flourish in “Sweet Love”. It’s in our DNA. Every circuit of your brain and my brain is wired to be loved and to love. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God has not given us the spirit of fear but of love and of power and of a sound mind.” Every type of emotion has one of only two roots – love or fear. Out of love flow joy, peace, happiness, patience, kindness, gentleness, and hope. Out of fear flow hate, anger, bitterness, resentment, rage, worry, envy and hopelessness.

The fascinating part is that scientists have researched the anatomy and physiology of love and fear and found that these two emotions cannot coexist. You either walk in love or fear but you can’t walk in both at the same time. 1 John 4:18 tells us, “Perfect love casts out fear.” We are wired for love, fear is a learned response. We are made for love. When we love our brain releases the chemicals dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin our feel good hormones. When we love we are set free to be our true, best self that God designed us to be. Fear causes us to release the stress hormones cortisol and norepinephrine. Fear in our heart and mind causes stress, which leads to anxiety and ultimately depression.

Proverbs 19:22 says, “What a man or woman longs for is unfailing love.” God’s love is unconditional and extravagant. His love is unfailing; it is limitless, unfathomable, unending and unconditional. We can’t earn it, we can’t stop it, and it’s the most powerful force in the universe. God’s love changes everything. His love conquers all. God’s love is sweet it satisfies like nothing else can do. As a Counselor and Life Coach my job is to help people to have “Sweet Love” with God first and then with each other.

10 Benefits of Sweet Love

1.) Helps us to reduce stress,
2.) Promotes mental health
3.) Anti cancer effect
4.) Reduces pain
5.) Better blood circulation
6.) Live longer
7.) Lowers blood pressure
8.) Reduced risk of heart disease
9.) Faster healing
10.) Forever young

We all face roadblocks to flourishing in love; it may be a spouse, a child, a parent or a friend. What is blocking you from loving well? Who do you need God to love through you? I want to share with you three Steps to “Sweet Love” that I use to help my clients to love well.

3 Steps to Sweet Love

1st Step – Grieve and Forgive. You have to grieve unfulfilled and unrealistic expectations. The more expectations you have of a relationship the more disappointed you will be. We each come into relationships with a heart full of expectations of what we think these people can give us, do for us or be to us. As these expectations are not met they turn into rocks of resentment. Resentment is ugly it is the #1 destroyer of a relationship. Unfulfilled expectations are fertile ground for resentment. We have to give God our expectations and our resentments. Forgiveness is giving up your right to hurt others back.

2nd Step – Accept and Hope. Accept what the relationship is and then hope for what it could become. Be thankful and grateful for the good in the person. Decide who you want to become in the relationship. (More loving, kinder, more patient.)

3rd Step – Daily be Infused – Daily and moment by moment let God infuse you with His love. Then in all your interactions during the day choose love over fear. Practice love with no regrets.

Choose love and your heart will follow. Try to see others through the lens of love. The secret to happiness is this: God is the love you are longing for. All creation cries out He loves you, receive His love anew today. “I pray that from His glorious, unlimited resources He will empower you with inner strength through His Spirit. Then Christ will make His home in your hearts as you trust in Him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep His love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.” Ephesians 3:16-19, The Bible (NLT).

See: Dr. Catherine Hart Weber, Flourish: Discover the Daily Joy of Abundant, Vibrant Living, 2010,
Bethany House.
Dr. Caroline Leaf, The Gift In You, 2009, Inprov, Ltd.
The Top Ten Health Benefits of Love, February 7, 2012, Rediff.com.